The “Dream” Life | Thoughts

Published on by Abigail Mae

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Hello & welcome back! I’m currently writing this post on vacation in Cape Cod. We just arrived here yesterday, and will be here for a week, so stay tuned for more posts on our vacation.

Today I just wanted to share some thoughts that I’ve been having lately. A few weeks ago, I was having a hard day, one of those days we all go through. I felt like I couldn’t do anything right, and I just kept feeling like I wasn’t good enough. I kept comparing myself to my friends, kept comparing myself to other bloggers, I just kept comparing myself to everything.

We all go through these days, so I’m certainly not special on this, but I think we can all agree that these kinds of days are completely awful.

I’ve always loved myself. Not in an egotistical way, but in a kind way. I’ve been raised to love the way I look and my personality, and not to compare myself to others. Because if we can’t love ourselves, how are we supposed to love others to our fullest ability? So, I don’t usually go through these kind of days, which is why this was so hard.

I was scrolling through Pinterest and looking at all the nice outfits people had, all the nice homes people had, all the vacations people were going on…it was just cluttering my mind. It was horrible. So I shut off the laptop and just tried to cheer myself up: working out, listing things I like about myself, etc.

And I found myself thinking: why am I comparing myself to others? Why am I wishing for the “dream” life?

And by the way, what is the dream life? Society tells us that if we have perfect hair, white teeth, beautiful clothing, a beautiful house, and a million other things, our lives will be perfect.

Late that evening, right after the sunset, I stood on my deck and looked out at the yard. A slight drizzle of warm summer rain was falling, crickets were chirping in the distance, and the air smelled like freshly cut grass and flowers.

And as I stood there, I realized this is the dream life. Not the life we see on Pinterest, but this. The dream life, in my opinion, is a life filled with happiness, adventure, and simple things. I don’t need perfect clothing and perfect hair and a perfect house to live the so called “dream” life.

Yesterday I was walking on the beach. The cold waves swept around my ankles, the wind whipped my hair,  and I couldn’t stop smiling. That’s the dream life: those small bursts of happiness. The simple things.

Moral of story: don’t focus on trying to look perfect. Focus on trying to feel perfect. Focus on being happy.

Thank you for reading & I would love to hear your thoughts on this! Have a fantastic day.

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34 thoughts on “The “Dream” Life | Thoughts”

  1. I really needed to hear this. I woke up feeling like why don’t I get 200 likes on my Instagram, why can’t my pictures look like this persons and why is my blog have no followers. Then I realized I did these things for me, for my therapy not for the validation of others. You just reaffirmed it.

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    1. I’m so glad this post was helpful, that means a lot to me. I’m sorry to hear you went through the same thing as well, my advice would be to put away social media for a day and just focus on being happy. People are so focused on taking pictures of themselves being happy that they forget there is a live aside from your phone and social media. Pinterest was getting really toxic for me because everyone had such perfect lives, so I put away Pinterest and focused on living my life instead of watching other people live their lives. Hope this helps xx Have a fantastic day!

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  2. I love this – it’s easy to forget to “stop and smell the roses” so I appreciate the reminder. And I agree – life it made of the smaller moments that don’t have to be shared on social media but just enjoyed in the moment. Hope you’re loving Cape Cod, I grew up there!

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    1. Thank you, so glad you agree! I absolutely adore Cape Cod, this is my 10th year visiting! We went here when I was younger and fell in love, so we started a tradition of going every year. That’s so cool that you grew up there!

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  3. This was really beautiful and inspiring. I’ve thought a great deal about this subject. If ware always waiting for something exciting to happen we will miss all the lovely little things in life. We must learn to love the simple.

    ~ Pip

    pipandlolly.blogspot.com

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  4. Oh my gosh, Abi… This was absolutely BEAUTIFUL. I’m so sorry you had to think those things — because I’ve been there and it SUCKS — but I’m so happy that you realized something else! What you wrote was gorgeous and absolutely freeing (and may have made my heart melt). Life is already a beauty and we should be thankful for it, even when it may not seem as “perfect” as others’ lives. ❤ THANK YOU FOR THIS AMAZING POST AND LOVE YOU!!! ❤

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  10. This was a beautiful post and just made me feel good inside. Thanks for the reminder of what’s really important–it’s easy to forget sometimes…but life is beautiful, and we can always find happiness in it, no matter what’s happening. So thank you for the lovely post! 🙂

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