appearance & self love | personal growth series #1


Hello & welcome back to my blog! I hope you are all having an amazing day. Today is the first post in the Personal Growth. I have some awesome posts coming up on this series, so stay tuned. You won’t want to miss it!

Today we’re going to be talking about self-love. I could write an entire book on this, but I’ll try to limit this post! (You’re welcome.) Ready? Let’s get into the post!


A while back, I read something that really stuck with me. It said something along the lines of If you want to love others to your fullest ability, first you must love yourself. We all go through those days where we feel so ugly, and whenever I’m having a bad day, I always think of this quote. Why? Because it’s true. You can’t expect yourself to be the most loving person on the planet if you don’t love yourself. 

Unfortunately, these days, if you love yourself, people will say you have a large ego, you’re a narcissist, etc. Well, look at the description for self love!

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You see advertisements with photoshopped people, and society tells you with this or that, you can look like them. It’s crazy. Work out, lose weight, whiten your teeth, get a haircut, diet, buy trendy clothing, act like everyone else…why can’t we just be the way we are?

Why can’t we just love ourselves, flaws and all? There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be in shape, have good hair, etc. But you don’t need to do any of those things to be beautiful.

Let’s say there are two girls. One girl is extremely beautiful, but she doesn’t have a beautiful heart. She is constantly jealous, thinks negative thoughts, and doesn’t care about others. The other girl may not be the thinnest, her teeth might not be bright white–but that doesn’t matter. Because if she has a beautiful heart, that is all she needs.

Compare these two girls. In your opinion, which one is prettier?


I was raised to love myself. I’ve said this in a different post, but I’ll say it again: I was raised to love myself in a kind way, not an egotistical way. I was raised to be kind to my body, to eat healthy food and get sleep. I was always raised to be kind to my mind–to think positive thoughts and be grateful.

So, it breaks my heart when beautiful girls & women say they’re ugly. It frustrates me, too–because your appearance does not matter. Let me say that again: the way you look is unimportant. If the world was blind, how many people would you impress? Think about that for a few seconds. Would you impress people with your kindness, your laugh? Would you impress people with your good heart?

If beauty was judged by your soul instead of your appearance, would you consider yourself to be beautiful? The next time you think you’re ugly, remind yourself that your appearance does not matter. You have a beautiful heart, a beautiful mind. That’s what’s important.


 – Tips to Increase Self Love –

  • Hang up inspirational signs or write yourself notes
  • Every night, write something you love about yourself. Anything.
  • Take care of your body. If you work out and eat healthy foods, as well as getting sleep, you are more likely to love your body and yourself!
  • Let yourself cry. So many people bottle up their tears, but you need to let yourself cry. Let it all go.
  • Don’t put too much on your schedule if you’re already busy. You don’t want to always be stressed and tired, so remember it’s okay to say no to things.
  • Do yoga.
  • Set goals for yourself, and try to achieve them.
  • You are not perfect–no one is. Love & embrace your flaws!
  • Helping others will help you love yourself.
  • Every night, look in the mirror and say things to yourself, like “I am beautiful” “I am strong” This really works!
  • Every morning, hug yourself and take a deep breath. You’ve got this!

– Self Love Quotes –

“Own who you are.”

“Be twice as powerful as you think you are.”

“She remembered who she was and the game changed.”

“You owe yourself the love you so freely give to other people.”

“You, alone, are enough. You have nothing to prove to other people.”

“If you’re searching for that one person that will change your life, look in the mirror.”

“Do not look at yourself with disgust, you are a gift to this earth. You are beautiful, you are a light, an energy, an essence. You are nature itself.”

That’s it for today’s post. I hope you enjoyed today’s post, and I look forward to talking with all of you in the comments. Have an amazing day.

What are your thoughts on this post & self-love?



53 thoughts on “appearance & self love | personal growth series #1

  1. I loved this!!! This says everything we stand for at The Body Mind Collective and I’m personally going through some stuff that made me start to forget the importance of self love so thank you so much for this post❤️❤️❤️

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  2. This is such a great post. All of the points you made are so excellent and true. I agree, it is so sad to see so many beautiful people telling themselves they are ugly. My best friend is truly soo gorgeous and sweet, but she always says things like “I’m ugly.” and then I have to knock some sense into her. XD Thank you for writing such a wonderful post and for speaking out!

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  3. OMG, this is an amazing post with lots of great advice and help! Self love is a daily process and something that you slowly have to grow into, but once you get to a good place it is the best thing you can ever do for yourself. love this!

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  4. This post was beautifully written. The topic of self-love is so important right now. It is so sad that a beautiful heart can some times be overlooked because of physical appearance. I agree with everything you said. I really enjoyed reading this x

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  5. This is such a lovely post!! I do struggle sometimes with self love because you’re right it’s so easy to look around and think “oh I’m not as pretty as her” or “oh I’m not as skinny as she is”. We just should be nice people and love ourselves the way we are. Thanks for sharing this post 😊 xx

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  6. I love this post! I also love the quote by Shakespeare ‘self love is not so vile as self neglegance’ which is kind of going along the same lines as this post. Would you also mind checking out my blog? I’ve just restarted it and it would be great if you could have a look 💕

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  7. I have also been on a mission to love myself more and to encourage others to do the same along the way. One of my favorite quotes I have found is,
    “Perhaps we should love ourselves so fiercely that when others see us they know exactly how it should be done.”
    I loved how you included that your beauty should come from kindness and a good heart. I want to focus on making sure I am encouraging and uplifting of others along my journey as well. Thanks for sharing!

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  8. Absolutely loved this post!!!! It is extremely difficult raising girls in todays society where image and how many re tweets or likes one has…determines their status. I read that by age 12, children will have witnessed over 76,000 commercials via tv…radio..internet..magazines..billboards…Thats alot of propaganda that children are subjected too. Yet…adults are subjected to the same..and many women struggle with the same issues children do. Very sad. Thank you for standing up for being Authentic…for loving yourself and giving your audience the love and encouragement they may need. 🕉

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    1. I love this comment and totally agree with everything you said. The image society gives women and young girls is truly toxic–I’m hoping to break past the expectations society has for women and help people with this series! Thank you!

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  9. Hi Abilgail,
    This is a lovely post! Very recently I have realized that I was struggling with loving myself and determining my self worth. Now I am reading and writing about it. This is really helpful. Thank you for sharing it!

    I would appreciate if you could check my post on “SELF WORTH- HOW NOT TO MESURE IT” and tell me how you feel about it.

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  10. Recovering from an eating disorder teaches many self-care skills that I didn’t know I should have. I did not have the same values growing up as you. I am happily growing my self-care skills:)

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  11. If I could double like this post I would! There aren’t enough conversations about self love in the world. I understand the purpose of aiming this post towards females but I can definitely see where men might resonate with this information as well. My “home away from home” is my gym where many men are trying to improve their strength or physique and with that comes comparing themselves to others, which in my opinion, is one the thief’s of happiness and self love. I very much enjoyed your post and look forward to seeing more in this series. If you find yourself with a moment I would greatly appreciate if you read my first post 🙂

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